Feeling down and out?

Looking back at recent events they don't seem as bad as they felt to me then. Hell, it may even be light in comparison to some of the stuff you might have gone through. If thats the case use my story as a metaphor for your troubles. Let it remind you that you already have EVERYTHING you need to pick yourself up and change your own life! You are not short of anything! You only need to believe that, wholeheartedly. Below is an outline of the steps that are tried and true to get me out of that funk. Do one, do them all. Just do something.

1- Identify the specific thoughts and triggers that feeds your self doubt
2- STOP Repeating them!!! 

Be conscious of when you’re allowing things to seep into your sub conscious and steal your joy.
3- Replace those thoughts with  POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS. Repeat them often. 

Dedicate time at the start of your day to     meditate on those positive thoughts. You can do this in many forms. I often listen to Joel Osteen podcast or success tips on a local radio program. You can also read your bible or do devotion. Anything that quiets your thoughts, renews your spirit, and encourages you to appreciate the gift of LiFe.

4- Have an attitude of gratitude. 

Identify and be grateful for every single thing you have!!! The seen and the unseen! If you’re focused on all that you DO have you’ll have less time to feel sorry for your self for what you don’t have!

5-Set some GOALS! Activity goals! Motion creates emotion.

 Don’t allow yourself to go too long without doing something nurturing for yourself. Go for a walk, clean yourself up and your space. Put something on that makes you feel good and energizes your spirit! Music, perfume, makeup, a dress whatever! Start small and work on being consistent with your effort until you manage to replace bad habits with new ones.

6- Do NoT underestimate the impact your space can have on how you feel! 

Clutter and untidiness often make you feel overwhelmed. Make it a priority to have a spot in your house that you can relax and reflect. Start with your spot and move on to making the rest of your space a sanctuary. A change of scenery makes a world of difference. If redecorating your house is too big of a task to take on then treat yourself to a stay at a nice hotel or bed and breakfast.

Current Obsession: Shift dress aka T-shirt Dress

This trend couldn't have come at a better time! I have been over the body con trend and was relieved to find an alternative, the T-shirt dress! It covers all the bases! Comfortable yet curve flattering and you can find it in all different materials and patterns! If you've shyed away from body con dresses in the past due to mid section woes a t-shirt dress is a great option to get a similar effect but with a little extra room! Make it casual by wearing it with a pair of birkenstock or gladiator sandals or make it suitable for a night out by pairing with some nice heels and a fancy clutch! Similar to how i wore it here. The possibilities are endless! 

This time i went for a more casual look but the texture and color of the dress gives it a classic pulled together look! I will be restyling this piece different ways!

If you're familiar with my personal style you know that i am not a fan of wearing black! I needs my color! This lippy gave me all of my life! Its Candy Yum Yum by Mac cosmetics! This may have been my first or second time ever wearing this color out, even though i've had it since the first round release. 

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You'll soon see just how ObSeSSeD i am with this trend! How do you like it? 



Casual Luxe

Today's OOTD was based on these heels. Simple and comfy yet makes a major statement!  

I am in the process of updating my wardrobe and have purchased quite a few summer items that  I am excited about showcasing in upcoming posts. These shoes are my most recent purchase. They are by Aldo Shoes in the style " Valleroy" and I purchased them from heels.com. I was determined to wear them right away for fear of me never actually wearing them. That seems to be the destiny of all the heels i've purchased for the past year or so, accumulating dust. I knew i wanted to be dressed comfortably since I'm usually more of a sneaker girl. This oversized T-shirt fit the bill. Add a statement necklace and a red lip and dazzit! 


*disclaimer: I usually wear a size 8, 7.5 if their open shoes but with this pair i bought a size 7 since the half size was too loose. This pair fits a bit tight but since i bought it in black last year i know for a fact it will be even more comfy after a few wears